tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post7024764062853729346..comments2022-12-11T10:16:49.501-05:00Comments on This Journey Without a Map: A Handful of Moments: heteronormativity and micro-aggression in my life E.E. Ottomanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18141599237300922369noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-74398124123953240752013-05-27T21:55:48.074-04:002013-05-27T21:55:48.074-04:00Micro-aggression is definitely death by a thousand...Micro-aggression is definitely death by a thousand cuts. Even in more liberal states and cities, the heteronormative attitude definitely prevails.<br /><br />I present pretty obviously as female, but I'm still constantly irked and insulted by the genderist assumptions in play in the workplace, and pretty much everywhere. And the underlying homophobic attitudes... I've been pretty lucky so far, but I'm perpetually aware that 90% of my co-workers are churchgoing religious folk and I have had bad experiences there.<br /><br />It's tough to speak out against micro-aggressions without feeling like you're opening yourself up to exposure or ridicule. But, the training I've gone through often recommends a simple, direct "What do you mean by that?" to make people think about and maybe question their assumptions, followed up with an "ouch" to let them know their words are hurtful. It may not seem like much, but it's a start.<br /><br />I would love a copy of Queer Fear if I'm so lucky as to win. :) TalyaAndor at gmail.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-19308515596535761192013-05-27T20:06:44.431-04:002013-05-27T20:06:44.431-04:00Thank you for taking part in the hop!
sstrode at ...Thank you for taking part in the hop! <br />sstrode at scrtc dot comSherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00113368398550173018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-32177322761145156282013-05-27T17:31:21.807-04:002013-05-27T17:31:21.807-04:00Thank you for the post, I would take any of the th...Thank you for the post, I would take any of the three. <br /><br />peggy1984 at live dot comPeggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09456911781137714022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-82032959572966828962013-05-27T16:39:41.037-04:002013-05-27T16:39:41.037-04:00it's a shame people are so hung up on 'str...it's a shame people are so hung up on 'straight'. small minds...<br /><br />lena.grey.iam@gmail.comLena Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06598473302061399248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-77845141513701625682013-05-25T19:44:54.443-04:002013-05-25T19:44:54.443-04:00Like everything you write, this is moving because ...Like everything you write, this is moving because it's so full of the everydayness of the topic. Beautifully written. I'm so glad I finally got a minute to read it. All the love to you. <3<br /><br />I'm looking forward to reading all three of these stories; I admit to being a little trepidatious about the anthologies as wholes, since their themes are not my usual fare at ALL, but I particularly want to read your story in Blood and Lipstick, I think. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-88120685294330016982013-05-24T11:48:26.811-04:002013-05-24T11:48:26.811-04:00Thanks for the post and hop.
cvsimpkins@msn.comThanks for the post and hop.<br />cvsimpkins@msn.comCorneliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08199342104703124890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-47951805449571615312013-05-23T03:18:31.462-04:002013-05-23T03:18:31.462-04:00Thanks for your wonderful post. I've been sitt...Thanks for your wonderful post. I've been sitting for two days now, trying to find something brilliant and moving to write. However, there's not much I can say, you covered it beautifully. I think it's sad that we have these different gender roles, I for one don't live up to several stereotypical female roles. I don't wear make-up, I don't obsess about my appearance. Heck, there's days where I roll out of bed, throw some clothes on, and leave. I'm more comfortable wearing pants than I am skirts or dresses. Most of my friends are guys, and there's times where they don't even really consider me a girl, I'm just "one of the guys", which I love. I love when people can overcome my gender and just accept me as who I am. Unfortunately, it just doesn't happen often. <br /><br />Thanks so much for sharing your story, and I can only hope, pray, and work towards a better future where people are open to all different genders and sexualities.<br /><br />I'd love to read the Queer Fear anthology, though I wouldn't mind trying the others, step outside my comfort zone a bit.<br /><br />tiger-chick-1(at)hotmail(dot)comEmilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08772530580061009074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-17300988555427280072013-05-22T15:34:54.915-04:002013-05-22T15:34:54.915-04:00Thank you so much for sharing you wonderful post a...Thank you so much for sharing you wonderful post and participating in this amazing hop! I would love to read the Queer Fear anthology. Thanks.<br /><br />sophiebonaste@gmail.comSophie Bonastehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16615011384995842052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-81298337993992639502013-05-21T22:47:42.354-04:002013-05-21T22:47:42.354-04:00Wonderful post. We have far to travel in our quest...Wonderful post. We have far to travel in our quest.<br /><br />Ryalrwoodshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08868926109700857673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-28561621900939244332013-05-19T17:25:13.894-04:002013-05-19T17:25:13.894-04:00That is was such a heart-wrenching post. I wish th...That is was such a heart-wrenching post. I wish that more people could understand that the comments that they make really hurt people. <br /><br />Anyway, I would love to read Queer Fear. Thanks.<br /><br />Beth<br />JPadawan11@gmail.com JPadawan11https://www.blogger.com/profile/04605927919813314204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-22326622182317242112013-05-19T09:37:44.756-04:002013-05-19T09:37:44.756-04:00same as L.J. I'm a bit at a loss ... and well ...same as L.J. I'm a bit at a loss ... and well I re-wrote the comment and deleted it in the end. This blog hop is really making my brain work.<br />I've been thinking if I ever came across heteronormativity and micro-agressions - yep I did and they are so much worse because they aren't open - I can deal with open accusations but those masked hints they just make me feel helpless.<br />So far I guess I have been too confusing for people to put me in a box - even can't label myself.<br /><br />Thank you so much for the personal stories. <br /><br />Queer fear would be the choicelönihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14680790300976702091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-58861554959249626572013-05-19T07:47:03.545-04:002013-05-19T07:47:03.545-04:00I've been pondering how to reply--what to say-...I've been pondering how to reply--what to say--to this post for a few days. It's so heartwrenching and so raw and I don't want to say something twee or offensive, no matter how unintentional. I want to say something that conveys just how strong you are, how amazing you are, but I don't know how. So all I will say is brava for this post and you are awesome.<br /><br />Zi Yong and the Collector of Secrets is one I'd like to read. L. J. LaBarthehttp://misslj_author.livejournal.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-39981818135279722502013-05-19T01:18:03.400-04:002013-05-19T01:18:03.400-04:00Thank you for sharing such compelling experiences....Thank you for sharing such compelling experiences. I hope they open many eyes.<br /><br />I would prefer: Zi Yong and the Collector of Secrets<br /> <br />sophia-martin at hotmail dot comSophiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06092137613275942829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-87510956092650489982013-05-18T12:50:25.566-04:002013-05-18T12:50:25.566-04:00Thank you so much for sharing some of your own sto...Thank you so much for sharing some of your own stories with struggles with heteronormativity (new term for me).<br /><br />I would love a copy of Queer Fear anthology. <br /><br />humhumbum AT yahoo DOT comH.B.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-16100565577797964342013-05-18T08:55:52.138-04:002013-05-18T08:55:52.138-04:00Thank you for sharing so much :) Beautiful post.
...Thank you for sharing so much :) Beautiful post.<br /><br />~Helen<br />thylacine.yawn@gmail.comH.B. Pattskynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05201149134614884167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-42515112918545605972013-05-17T18:44:03.742-04:002013-05-17T18:44:03.742-04:00Thank you for your very thought provoking post. I&...Thank you for your very thought provoking post. I've heard the term micro-aggression before but your very intimate anecdotes make the meaning very clear and personal.<br /><br />qbeeqt @ yahoo . comMayanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-25406911625241023542013-05-17T14:43:31.518-04:002013-05-17T14:43:31.518-04:00Brilliant post, hon. And I have to admit I'd n...Brilliant post, hon. And I have to admit I'd never heart of heteronormalitivity. (I had to scroll up to spell it too - not sure I even did it right) ;)<br /><br />Hugs<br />K-lee<br />K-lee Kleinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17282336893609747285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-9505504893470970782013-05-17T10:59:22.634-04:002013-05-17T10:59:22.634-04:00Thank you for taking part in the hop!
I'd lo...Thank you for taking part in the hop! <br /><br />I'd love to get a copy of Queer Fear.<br /><br />kimberlyFDR@yahoo.com KimberlyFDRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01969245120222671022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-25542107065382347172013-05-17T10:05:09.652-04:002013-05-17T10:05:09.652-04:00thanks for the awesome blog post. couldn'tve s...thanks for the awesome blog post. couldn'tve said it better!<br /><br />i would love to win Blood and Lipstick anthology <br /><br />parisfan_ca@yahoo.comlauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08770659546247454511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-36948843234374218782013-05-17T10:03:18.976-04:002013-05-17T10:03:18.976-04:00Gut-wrenching post. I hope it makes a difference.Gut-wrenching post. I hope it makes a difference.Megan Derrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11416660733243387098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3805621329335789529.post-7894251109417352202013-05-17T08:58:10.945-04:002013-05-17T08:58:10.945-04:00Brilliant blog post ^^ Thank you. Although you usu...Brilliant blog post ^^ Thank you. Although you usually do write awesome posts anyway (: Totally sharing this one around.<br /><br />I haven't heard the term 'micro-aggression' before, but I do see it all the time. Makes me sad, although I do fuck all about it. Reckon every school and work place should have a dunce cap for these situations, that way you don't need to say anything, just fetch the cap.<br /><br />I'd really like to read the Queer Fear anthology. Love me some dark, fucked-up horror.<br />Contact info is: sylvia-winters@hotmail.co.uk<br />Sylviahttp://sylviawinters.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com